Dear Snowfrost

[Snowfrost]

Welcome all, to the 'Dear Snowfrost' thread, where people may come as guests and type their troubles, concerns, etc...

As for the question, "Why are you doing this, Snowfrost?" Because I understand the need of having someone listen to your problems, and helping you with them. I understand, for I have always done that to my friends, I consult them as they talk about their problems.

And now, I will do this for everyone in Oblivia Guilds. Just come in as guest, and type your problems and concerns, and I will answer to the best of my ability.

And please, people of OG, for the sake of everyone. Don't type your problem until I've written the answer of someone's question. And people who don't have questions, just don't type during a question, do it after the Q and A.

Now, I'm receiving questions...

[arrucard]

Q): Must we be guest?

[Snowfrost]

A): It's to allow anonymity in case if it's an embarrasing or personal question

Next question!

[arrucard]

Q):Well...My Grandpa has just gotten don with Prostate cancer and.. he now apearently has Cancer in his asaphogas and they say he may posssibly die from it....

[Snowfrost]

A): Ok, take in account that his death is a POSSIBLE, so take in account all the posibilities first, before ruling his death inevitable. And then take into account his age, and question yourself with questions such as:

"As he lead a good life?", "Have I spent that much time with him?", "Do I have an awesome relationship with my grandfather?". But before you ask yourself these, research and search EVERY single, possible solution to his prostate cancer, before you resign yourself to his possible death.

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If his death is indeed inevitable, I offer my condolences. While grieving for one's loved one, is normal. Grieving for a unusual long time is bad for oneself and their acquaintances, as it affects your relationship with them, and shows that you have still have not let go the death of your relative. One must go with their life, always having in your heart the memory of your departed relative, never forgetting.

If you believe in religion, and there is a paradise or heaven in your faith, don't think his death of departure, but arriving in his promised land. And remember, he is always looking down at you, watching you, and still caring. For a family member who cares about his family, and passes on to the afterlife, he's a guardian angel to his family and loved ones.


Now, Next Question!

[Arissa Warrner]

Q: how do you deal with a bratty girl who will be at your school next year and you really dont ever want to see her again?

[Snowfrost]

A): It all comes down to the following:

1. If she's in the same lunch period as you (If there's more than one lunch period), always hang out with your friends, for they will back you up, if she comes over to annoy you for fun.

2. If she's in the same class as you, try and politely ignore her throughout the school year. Remember, POLITELY ignore her, otherwise she may retaliate in some form or another, if your rude(Be Prepared for anything.)

3. Never get angry at the girl's antics, and general annoyance, for that is her purpose, to annoy you and get a rise from you. So every time she goes to annoy, be calm, and aloof. Later when your home, release some of that stress. But never get angry in front of her, because that is her goal.

Cardinal Rule: Never, EVER, stoop down to her level, no matter how bratty and annoying she may be.

Not seeing this girl, in school would be highly impossible, I personally don't know the school's schedule but heed my advice Arrisa.

Becuase that's all the advice I can give you to ignore this bratty girl, when she starts going to your school.

Next question!

[Willow]

This isn't a very deep question, it's more of a random thing...

How is it fair when, on a game(I'm such a noob right now..) that a person three levels above you, not to mention there awesome stats, attacks you with your permission and KILLS YOU. *pokes the link in her siggy* That game....I will kill him.

Just j/king, you don't have to answer that. NEXT QUESTION! unless you're really bored and actually want to answer that.

[The man without a face]

Dear Snowfrost,

Since the person above me and I belive the Rules that you have set allow me to post.. I will...

What if everyday.. youjust feel like your about to explode?
What if every day, You wish your life would end..
What if everyday, I put the barrel to my head.. Wishing.. for it all just to go away.. just for it to be silenced once and for all....
I have lost almost every part of me that was once human...
Know.. all I am is hollowed shell.. Just a worthless sack of life..

Every nightt... I cry myself to sleep..
Every thing in my life has become a living hell..
Why have I been forced to live this?

Every one tells me That im worthless... I dont deserve to live..
In my school they would call that "Teasing"
Well I know better...
I know what they ment...
And to take off the stress.. I let the knife dig deep..

So are you really to tell me that everythings ok?

[Snowfrost]

A): I truly sympathize with your situation. As I had friends with your situation...Well, let's say their somewhere better than this cruel world.

Everyday I remember the dearly departed, but due to MY situation, I don't cry for the sake of my family. Who sadly see that I'm desensitized to the world, I hold it all in, knowing that in the possible world I KNOW I will eventually explode.

But my family needs me, Everyone I KNOW needs me, I'm my family's pillar. But in regards to your situation, it's understandable, but let me ask you this.

Would you be willing to give them the pleasure of not having you around? Will you give them the pleasure that you died because of their actions?

Man is easily jealous of someone else having better talents than them, it's nature. And it's nature that they seek to destroy what they understand. Sadly, that's what humanity has come to, now a days.

I also face similar taunts like you, my friend. Know that the world is filled with idiots, but know that MAN shines through struggle, and eventually surpasses his obstacles.

But please, for MY sake, don't give up on life. I may never know you, but we have something in common, that of being hurdled struggle after struggle.

Even though you may think and say that you know what will come to you, more pain, tragedy, etc...

NO man knows the future, because it's through their hand that they build their future. Giving up on life, isn't the answer, no, ITS NEVER THE ANSWER!!!

I have thought similar thoughts like you, those of suicide. But I have a purpose, and that's to provide for my family, mainly my mother. And to help Humanity get out of this rut that they got stuck in, that of vanity, greed, and stupidity.

If you don't have a purpose, make one for yourself. And about cutting, that leads to a destructive path, even though it releases stress. There are better options than cutting, for example: Watch clouds, draw, tend a garden, Watch nature. Any of these are better than cutting.

My last words to you my friend, is to go against what they say about you, create a purpose for yourself, and live life, for it's a precious gift.

[Snowfrost]

I really hope that this answer has shown you a different aspect to life The man without a face. Life is a precious gift, a chance to do what WE want.

Your life may be hellish or worse than mine, but think about ALL the other people whose lives are extremely worse than yours. Be grateful that you have a life, go to school, aren't chained down to someone, that you aren't selling your body JUST to survive. You have a golden chance to break your chains, not literally but mentally.

Don't let your tormentors win, show them that your worth something, that your better than them!!! Don't give up on your life The man without a face!!! SHOW THEM THAT YOUR BETTER THAN THEM!!!

Again, I truly hope that my answer helped you...

Now, Next Question!!!

[Kuraz]

Q): this is next to nothing compared to the last question, and is really hard to answer, or really much of a question, but are others aloud to answer questions if they have something they think they should say

[Snowfrost]

A): In other words, your asking me, If people's opinions are okay to put in, in relation to the questions being asked.

Yes, that is okay, but you have to PM me the opinion, as I am the final say on the answer, as I can add other users opinions to my post. Just PM them to me, it's better that way, ok?

next question!!!

[arrucard]

Q): What if your Paranoid about Everyone and Everything?
And What if people maake fun of you because you flintch at everything because of certain events that have caused you to that?

[Snowfrost]

A): What you have there Arrucard, is a reflex, a bad one at that, but don't beat yourself over it. As you said certain events have caused you to be like that, one of the things you could is to ignore the teasing and people making fun of you. If you can't, it shows that you give a hoot about what other people think of you.

All I can say to your 'condition' is to practice, with your grandparents, to de-condition yourself out of that reflex. This may be a good activity to do with them, as you will bond with them as well, and they will know of you more, hence caring for you even more.

For example, let them try and spook you intentionally with your consent, and everytime they spook you, control yourself from flinching.

Know that controlling a reflex is very hard to do, and it won't go away from day to night. It will take hard work, but never give up, and you'll be able to control or destroy that reflex from you forever, so don't give up Arrucard!!

Now, Next question!!